In our crazy hectic & demanding lives that we live today we feel pulled in so many different directions on a daily basis. We can easily lose our balance, and our priorities. It is so important to pay attention to what’s happening within us. Pressure, stress, frustrations, people pleasing, pain,fears and anger all throw us off balance. It’s important to take the time to just sit and “be with yourself” a bit.. What makes you tick… what tears you up. I think ultimately the journey for each of us is towards Love, peace, gratefulness… but in this world , it is easy to get off this path. Events happen to us all that just shake us. We are taught ( or simply absorb) what society shows us. We do what we think we are supposed to do with our lives, what is expected by society. We follow in our family footsteps… or we blaze our own trail. You’ve got to have some pretty thick skin. We ultimately have to be true to ourselves… anything less is cheating ourselves and our creator. I think most people find that when they go against who they are inside it eats them up. Which brings me back to stress, pressure, frustrations, pain, anger & fear… All come from not being true, not saying how you feel, denying who you really are deep inside. All of these emotions come from a lower place inside us, the ego, bad energy. We have to learn to cope better. I don’t think any of these emotions are built into us.. I think they are learned behaviors. We have to find our way out of them because these things cause our bodies to become ill. I’ve touched before on the subject of ongoing stress and it’s negative health impacts. We hold our stress in our guts, it changes the energy and flow inside our body. You know that feeling you get when your stomach is in a big knot… it gets hot, that’s increased blood flow, a chemical reaction… it gets tight, that is the blood flow being cut off… after a long period of stress and anxiety the body has stopped running in its normal efficient way. All of these negative energies make our bodies toxic. This has catastrophic effects on our health. This stuff is really hard to avoid in life, there is so much pressure to keep up, conform, please those around us… less emphasis on being true to self.…Any time that negative energy becomes stagnant inside the body the conditions become favorable for health problems. We all have heard how long term stress contributes to high blood pressure, heart attacks, and strokes. The research is in on cancer as well. These negative holdings play a huge part in the development of cancer. Sure there are many environmental links to cancer… what we are exposed to in the air, water, diet.. but stress, anxiety, anger, guilt & fear are all factors as well. They fester and grow inside of us until they wreak havoc on our health. This is why it is of utmost importance to release these negative emotions. They are a daily punishment to our bodies. The first step is to deal with these issues head on. If you get up every day and absolutely hate your job… feel miserable with your life and the direction it has taken you need to do some serious self examination. What do you need to change deep down?? Take the chance you want to take, chase your dream. Don’t spend your time regretting not doing stuff. Are any of us here to simply exist, or to just keep on that daily life treadmill? Think about that. We learn as we go.. we are ever evolving. We are human, we make mistakes… we have to learn to forgive ourselves… we have to learn to forgive others, not because they didn’t hurt us, but to release ourselves from this toxic cesspool that lives inside us. Say what you need to say to the people you need to say things to, release it and let it go. If someone has wronged you why punish yourself by holding on to that.. release it, let it go.. realize that we each walk our own path, we have no control over how people act or react,.. BUT we do have control over how we react to it. Every day, do your best to be true to who you are.. when you climb into bed at night you’ll sleep better. You can’t make everyone happy all the time.. that is not reality. You have to really let go of that stuff because you’ll drive yourself crazy trying. Clarity is often a bumpy road… We live and we learn. We can spend our lives Monday morning quarterbacking until the end of time…but why??? You can be kind to others AND be kind to yourself. It’s ok to say no. It’s ok to say this doesn’t work for me. It’s ok to grow forward and release the chains that bind you! We all come from different places, with different experiences but ultimately we all want to be happy (well most of us, some people live to be miserable, why I do not know… but for some it is a way of life). You can be true to yourself and still feel compassion, empathy, kindness, generosity of spirit.. it’s not selfish. Those things inside us all that eat on us… those are the things that have to be faced and dealt with… they are the toxic stuff diseases are made of. This is one of the things Peter and I have really learned since his diagnosis. A cancer diagnosis is a sure fired super hyperdrive push in this direction. It changes the way you see everything… What is important changes overnight. This is an area that cancer patients need to think about and work through to allow the healing treatments to work. Whatever the treatment is , the result of treatment will for sure be affected by this inner toxicity!! As a care giver it is also so important to deal with these emotions as your health could ultimately be affected if you are not being self aware. Take that time to just be with yourself, to breathe, to let go of what no longer serves you.. find your balance and your peace in the midst of the storm. People have a tendency in the world today to try hard to pull you into their storm; pull them into your peace instead…or love yourself enough to step away from the poison. We are all on this journey called life… be kind to yourself.